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Friday, August 12, 2011

Sometimes your Friends aren't really Friends

Do you know anyone who always brings you down? You know, the sort of person who can only see the bad things in life? Do you listen to them and maybe try to help them see the good things, to no avail?

If you know someone like that, who constantly undermines your positive attitude and who just can't or won't see the good things in life, it can be deadly to your happiness. If you've known this person for a long time and they've always been like this, do you wonder sometimes why you bother?

Well, if, despite all of your efforts to help them, they haven't changed, maybe it's time to make the tough decision and let them go. These kinds of people can be leeches, sucking the good from you and leaving you weak and with your happiness levels sadly depleted.

People can't be made happy by the actions of others, personal happiness is up to each person. You can't make someone happy if that person refuses to try to be happy. And if your friend is sad, well that's not because of you either. Your friend may not realise it, but because of the way they think about things, they're making themselves sad.

So, how about you have a quiet chat with your friend and let them know you've decided to look to your own happiness first, and you don't feel you're helping them by listening to them whinge and complain. It will be tough to do it, if you've always been there for them, but unless you let them go, you'll both be suffering from the friendship.

This friend needs to find their own happiness, and you need to protect yours from their negativity. You can both gain from this action.


john l malone said...

yes Carolyn I knew people like this but I have largely erased them from my life; sometimes it is so hard to be positive anyway --- you must know this --- that you certainly don't require others to bring you down as well

Anonymous said...

Thank you for your reply to this post John. I have an almost overwhelming desire to help everyone to find their way to happiness.
It's become my self appointed role in life. It's an interesting one, and sometimes I can see a smile on a sad person's face. I know then I'm getting there.

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